tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post14837571333010897..comments2023-07-23T10:19:26.868-04:00Comments on Love, Laughs & Lice.... Stories from my life: Dinner with a "Friend"Lynn C Mama to 3http://www.blogger.com/profile/05342036087073401778noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-71859756197324623832009-04-23T04:27:00.000-04:002009-04-23T04:27:00.000-04:00Sandra - I knew you had good reasons. But, more i...Sandra - I knew you had good reasons. But, more importantly, I am glad that we are reconnecting and I hope that it continues.Lynn C Mama to 3https://www.blogger.com/profile/05342036087073401778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-5059298187366327942009-04-22T17:47:00.000-04:002009-04-22T17:47:00.000-04:00From Sandra:
No Excuses Just Some Possible Reason...From Sandra:<br /><br />No Excuses Just Some Possible Reason<br /><br />It took me 34 years to meet the man of my dreams and have the children I never thought I would have. Unfortunately, in my zeal to create the perfect life for that family I've become an archaic woman that hates the phone, goes to bed at 10 for work the next day, is a complete committment phobe because I hate cancelling, I have a total fear of judgement from everyone from church, to parents, to the grocery store. In fact, I hadn't even turned on a computer to access a blog until today (when I came to my sis's to turn one on to check the blog). <br /><br />The cost of seeking this perfection has been loss of individuality at times, total chaos in my home because there is no chance of perfection with 2 kids under 3 (not including the husband), a double dose of lexipro each night, and maybe most importantly . . . nostalgia for the carefree, easy friendships that once were. <br /><br />I'm glad you didn't call in sick and I'm thrilled that you are glad you went, too. Since I've already admitted to being a committment phobe I won't make any promises for a "committee call" tonight - wink! wink! but I would love to take it one day at a time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-36394700877413899382009-04-22T10:47:00.000-04:002009-04-22T10:47:00.000-04:00Courtney - Thanks for reading and posting. Love y...Courtney - Thanks for reading and posting. Love your comment!!! You are 100% correct about sucking it up and going. I am glad I did.<br /><br />Suz - Ms. Smarty Pants with the decoder ring! You are right... I did do something to cause to the break up... even if I don't know what it was. And for the record, the husband is never good in these situations. If he was, I wouldn't have to blog!<br /><br />J.D. - The voice of wisdom! Thanks. You were exactly right. And no... amazingly, she doesn't read my blog. What does that say about me as a blogger, if I can't even get my friends to read it!<br /><br />Jounice - Good point.<br /><br />Mary - You were right. I gotta be me! Is that Ethel Merman?<br /><br />Momo-Mama - You and J.D. are geniuses.<br /><br />Mama bird - Stupid pain pills! Can't have a cocktail. Maybe we should have rescheduled for a night when I was off the drugs.<br /><br />BOSSY - That is exactly the reason I went. Why eat ham in a crockpot when I can have Bravo!<br /><br />Laura - You know what... I am. How about you?Lynn C Mama to 3https://www.blogger.com/profile/05342036087073401778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-6612861548463193522009-04-22T10:15:00.000-04:002009-04-22T10:15:00.000-04:00Wow- lots of great comments and opinions on this. ...Wow- lots of great comments and opinions on this. So are you glad you went?<br />Laura the FamousAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-48948450622620503262009-04-22T09:49:00.000-04:002009-04-22T09:49:00.000-04:00Ack, what do you have to lose? Of course Bossy wil...Ack, what do you have to lose? Of course Bossy will go to any lengths to eat in a place that is NOT her own house.BOSSYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12137297805742498961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-17867014037404784002009-04-22T00:21:00.000-04:002009-04-22T00:21:00.000-04:00Be yourself and order lots of cocktails for everyo...Be yourself and order lots of cocktails for everyone. And if the night sucks, send some radio silence her way. No need to waste your time.the mama bird diarieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04248352454666306821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-23307646078403607062009-04-21T17:18:00.000-04:002009-04-21T17:18:00.000-04:00I've encountered several of these events in the pa...I've encountered several of these events in the past year or so and I have found that it always come down to some sort of miscommunication...<br /><br />I love what J.D. said about going and being yourself, becasue in the end that is all that really matters...you are you whether or not others approve and maybe, just maybe she is feeling exacty the same way? It might be worth trying to have a very clear and open discussion with her so all the "bad water" can be thrown out. Then you can decide where to go from there.Roxanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02242513416257644429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-50908929058922178402009-04-21T16:59:00.000-04:002009-04-21T16:59:00.000-04:00Well, I'd go and just be myself, and not give a ra...Well, I'd go and just be myself, and not give a rat's ass if Ardnas has a problem with it. Sorry if I seem nasty and rude, but I don't have time for people like that...Just my 2 cents!! :o)Mary@Holy Mackerelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04026873878364041551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-58760527664549407022009-04-21T14:13:00.000-04:002009-04-21T14:13:00.000-04:00Life is too short to do something you are not comf...Life is too short to do something you are not comfortable with or want to do. So I say if "Ardnas" (good alias...) is the one who asked for the dinner out than she should accept who you are now in your life and get over it. If you don't think she can or will...I say spend your adult time doing something you like to do.Jounicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14598848491099109134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-88692157845966429462009-04-21T13:49:00.000-04:002009-04-21T13:49:00.000-04:00It sounds like Ardnas wants to connect with your c...It sounds like Ardnas wants to connect with your crew but remain independent at the same time. Perhaps she lacks the skills or the confidence in herself to be included. Since you asked, I suggest you try to forget the past friendship failures, forget about trying to portray your "perfect" life, and just be yourself. Wear what you would normally wear if she wasn't going to be there. And talk about the things you normally would talk about if she was missing. Don't focus all your attention on her but don't ignore her either. Just be yourself. If your dinner-with-the-crew personality is anything like the person the rest of us see when we read your blogs then Ardnas will get the chance to see the real you...she may or may not want to renew the friendship but at least she'll have the true picture of the "Goddess in Training" to make that decision. ps: doesn't she read your blog?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-37743397671143826502009-04-21T12:59:00.000-04:002009-04-21T12:59:00.000-04:00At first I was going to say "call in sick" avoid t...At first I was going to say "call in sick" avoid the uncomfortable. Which you can still do, and I would not judge you for this (really, do you care if I judge?)<br />But if Homa is going to be with you...then perhaps you should be there with her??? Support her...a united team?<br />Apparently, you did/said something in the past that offended Sandra. I mean Ardnas. (I remembered your trick Nnyl) I think she will never reveal what you did to offend her...so she will be quiet and judgemental. You should never have to spend time with someone that you don't enjoy...or that you feel will criticize your every word.<br />Ok. So I am no help whatsoever.<br />Maybe someone else can give you a definitive answer. What does the husband say?Busy Bee Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115487928147732314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2765587457303011207.post-4782048301983777052009-04-21T11:51:00.000-04:002009-04-21T11:51:00.000-04:00So, I began reading your blog probably about a mon...So, I began reading your blog probably about a month ago, so in the interest of no longer being a "stalker" here goes: this does sound like a complicated situation, and i get that it sucks to have to spend your small amount of adult time with someone who you have an awkward relationship with, BUT you wont be only with her you will be with an actual friend, so maybe it wont be all bad. besides isn't it a little late to back out now?<br /><br />ps LOVE your blog!keekee1082https://www.blogger.com/profile/15177470960142904366noreply@blogger.com