Friday, March 27, 2009

My Cousin's Infinite Wisdom

So, you may have noticed that I was pretty grouchy this week. I was not thrilled with life in general and had no real reason why. Nothing major happened this week... no one (that I know) lost their job, got sick, died, etc... but I still was in a funk of major proportion. Then, my cousin Heidi responded (via Facebook... its not a hallucination, I swear) and said the most accurate thing I have ever heard. "...someone will ALWAYS be skinner, prettier, have more, be funnier, be more organized, be more productive!! It is just the way life goes."

That statement has been hanging around in my brain since I read it, and you know what... that is so true. I could sit here and compare myself to my friends, relatives, neighbors, other bloggers, and people I don't even know and you know what... in some category or another I will always fall short. I don't have the great job that Homa has and I don't have the great pool that Lori and Jo have and I don't have the fantastic baby chicks that Laura has. I am not an uber popular blogger like Moosh in Indy or the other bloggers that I follow. But, there are people that have less than me, too. Moosh in Indy's writer is desperate to have another child but struggling, and in that realm, she could envy me. I got pregnant with Jack when I was ON BIRTH CONTROL. There is no doubt that I could have a gaggle if I wanted to. (How many is that, so I know if I get there?) But, her blog will always be better than mine.

So, I sat there and wrote out all the things that I fall short on, but I bet there are things that I am good at, too. I would guess I am better at some stuff than other people are (and when I come up with something, I will let you know). So, a little perspective and suddenly life seems a whole lot easier. Or, I could follow her other gem of wisdom, "surround yourselves with losers to make yourself feel better." Actually, that might be the better plan after all!!!!


Mark said...

You have no reason to feel like you are inadequate at anything. I think you are an amazing person who can do anything she puts her mind to.

Domestic Goddess (In Training) said...

Mark - I don't usually comment during the day, but let me just say that I haven't stopped gagging yet.

Homa said...

Hey, how about I find a way to "rig" things around here (sorry, can't say name of company) and all your troubles and worries would disappear!

Busy Bee Suz said...

Your cousin is Positively correct.
We must get over ourselves.
Help me please. ;0

Believe what Mark is telling you....he is the only one you really need to worry about anyway.

Karen said...

If it makes you feel better, I'm the loser with a dirtier house, more dogs, higher vet bills, older vehicles, more outdated clothing, no sense of style, and more than a few extra pounds of body fat hanging around. See what a good friend I am?

Mark said...

Yeah I felt that would be your reaction but I decided to say it anyway.

bernthis said...

let me tell you something, no one gets out of this life totally unscathed. You are so right. I heard a great saying once from a recovering alcoholic: don't compare your insides to someone else's outsides b/c you will lose every time. I love by that. Just saying it to myself really takes the pressure off, I'll tell you

texasholly said...


Thankfully life is not a competition and we all are here for some sort of purpose...

But if life WERE a competition I totally would win if it was a "worst cook" or "cared the least about laundry" semi-final.

Momo-Mama said...

Can I be one of the losers? I had a rough week too (also for no reason) and my words of wisdom (not from a cousin named Heidi) are as follows:

"Misery loves let's fricken party!"

Anna Lefler said...

Wait, someone will always be *prettier* than me?

Well, that's it - I quit.



the mama bird diaries said...

As someone who would love to have another child, I, too, envy your fertility.

Andrea's Sweet Life said...

Isn't it easy to have a pity party when you're feeling grumpy? I had one of those weeks, too.

Make a list of things you're really, really good at (they can be outrageous if you like, or maybe have Mark make the list for you?) and take a look at them whenever you're feeling "less than". Works every time!

Thanks for stopping by Sweet Life!

Domestic Goddess (In Training) said...

Homa - That sounds like a plan!!! Although you never really helped me rob the bank, so I won't get my hopes up!

Suz - I stopped worrying about Mark a long time ago!!!

Karen - You are perfect... let's hang out!

Mark - Because you're a glutton for punishment.

Bern - I love that... no one gets through life unscathed. That is so true.

Holly - At least you are a winner!!!

Momo-Mama - You have to really qualify to join the loser club. Don't think you're getting in here if you don't suck!

Anna - What if EVERYONE is prettier than I am??? So unfair.

Mama Bird - I wish I could spread my fertility around for others, I really do. Its my only skill right now.

Andrea - I think having Mark make the list is genius. God knows mine wouldn't be so long!

Anonymous said...

Your cousin is very wise. You'll go crazy comparing yourself to others...although it's hard.

You have tons of support out here and we're all pulling for you.

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